Self-worth, self-respect, sexiness, worth, and value... These are all emotions and feelings that we often feel can only be given by the praise and admiration of another. Many times we often mistake the deep desire for a relationship with the deep desire to posses these 5 qualities. The truth is though, that you do need someone to make you feel the above emotions, feelings, and qualities, and that person is YOU. No one can take away your self-worth, your self-respect, your sexiness, or your very worth and value--only you can take those qualities from your possession.
When a relationship ends they do not end; when you find yourself alone, in silence, in reflection you never stop exuding those qualities.
If a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, does it still make a sound? Joy, pain, laughter, tears, love, hate exude from us not for the audible pleasure and satisfaction of another but as an outlet and expression of what we feel inside--that those around us may happen to witness.
Even in the most desolate of locations one's feelings mean something, one's expressions matter. All of creation cries out in praise to the Creator-no one is without excuse in understanding the glory of God.
Self-worth can not be proved, it is not dictated by a job on your resume, a ring on your finger, a hobby on display, or the act of being understood by another. Self-worth comes from understanding you were made with purpose and for a purpose that no one else can understand or enjoy because worth is defined by God and not by human standards. Your worth is not your own--it was given to you by one who believes in you, even when you doubt both Him and yourself.
Self-respect can not be taken away. How you view yourself should not be dependent on the admiration or respect of others. You must demand respect from others as well as yourself. Others may leave, may laugh in your face, may try to devalue you in all aspects, but their actions do not reflect your value, your pride, your boundaries, or standards. People must earn your respect, it is not immediately given and can not be taken, but once lost--it is gone forever. Treasure the respect for yourself, you've earned it--make others do the same!
Sexiness--self love is taught as a sin and the term "sex" is branded in our minds as off limits until marriage. So how does one feel sexy without sinning and with maintaining purity in their current prefix? Sexiness is what you exude--confidence, respect, love, peace, joy, discipline, consistency, it should be a mirror of your heart--a glimpse at your soul. Just as sex was created as a sacred act between two in a union of marriage and was perverted into an act of lust, sexiness is the characteristics that one exudes that gives a glimpse to the sacred union of God's love and one's acceptance of that love and should not be mistaken with perversion that is an emotion one feels as lust towards you.
Sexiness is not reserved for those who are married--being single you are allowed to exude confidence, respect, love, peace, joy, discipline, and consistency because we are the bride of Christ.
Worth and Value are not dependent on a possession, on a look, on acceptance--it is nothing we can gain by 10 extra minutes on a treadmill, with the position earned within a company, by the pursuit of one by the opposite sex. Worth comes from our sense of self but we must remember that we do not belong to ourselves--Our old selves are dead and buried and we belong to the one that holds us above all that attempts to steal His grace from us.
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